Words

[hypatia42]

Skank. Slutty slutty whore. *thoughtful look* Both of these terms have been used in regards to me, in the past week but also over the past year. By people that love me and generally use them in an endearing tone of voice. Not really sure how to deal with that.

I understand that poly people have been trying to reclaim slut as a positive term. I don't particularly feel one way or the other about it. I just can't feel there is any good connotation of the two above other than the one that is being put into it by the people I know. Not really sure there should be good connotations. Its kinda of a strange place to be. I don't particularly think of myself as either one(*see previous post about other people's perceptions). Also, I don't have issues with it since I *so* don't see myself that way. At what point do I need to step in and say something? I don't even know...

Comments

[hypanebliss.livejournal.com]

A and I use "slutty slutty whore" as pretty much a meaningless connotation. Based upon the charged responses above I'd say people really take that completely at face value. I really get tired of folks constantly picking and choosing when statements are evaluated literally or not. If we're all going to shoot for making impeccable statements 100% of the time that is fine. But I think that it takes a lot more time to truly think before speaking. I don't believe people are accostumed to that sort of scrutiny in their language structure. With writing it's easier. We can go back numerous times looking over and over again while analyzing.

"Skank" is uncalled for in my personal view. I'm not sure I could say that one without a negative connotation.

And all of these depend on context, the setting in which they are used, vocal tonality and facial expression. None of which transfers over into LJ so it's impossible for the folks above to get a good vibe for the situation.

However, as always in life...if you are offended by something and it hurts your feelings I think you should speak up. :)

[hypatia42.livejournal.com]

None of which transfers over into LJ so it's impossible for the folks above to get a good vibe for the situation.

Yes and I get the feeling I need to make a post about questions posed in my lj. They are mostly questions I need to ponder for myself.

As for A and yourself, you both use it differently. Neither in a derisive manner but the other wasn't used that way either. I will admit that having "skank" applied to me made me notice more the other derogatory words people use to describe me. Even if done in a loving manner, it says something.

A didn't start using that on me until she started to get to know my poly habits. Makes me curious. Me having an open process for things means that I have to deal with others processing through their feelings on my process... Wow that is kind of a profound statement there. Kinda round about but it says a lot.