Words

[hypatia42]

Skank. Slutty slutty whore. *thoughtful look* Both of these terms have been used in regards to me, in the past week but also over the past year. By people that love me and generally use them in an endearing tone of voice. Not really sure how to deal with that.

I understand that poly people have been trying to reclaim slut as a positive term. I don't particularly feel one way or the other about it. I just can't feel there is any good connotation of the two above other than the one that is being put into it by the people I know. Not really sure there should be good connotations. Its kinda of a strange place to be. I don't particularly think of myself as either one(*see previous post about other people's perceptions). Also, I don't have issues with it since I *so* don't see myself that way. At what point do I need to step in and say something? I don't even know...

Comments

[onyxtwilight.livejournal.com]

I'm fine with the redefinition of 'slut', because it implies rethinking the feelings around the behavior, and I'm in favor of that. 'Whore' is rather a middle ground; even sacred whores got PAID, and if there's no money changing hands, I'm not seeing it.

'Skank' is bothersome, though. I can't really find a good context for that word, even in the most sex-positive end of the pool. Who the hell said that about you, and to what were they referring? I don't get it.

[hypatia42.livejournal.com]

Who the hell said that about you

You don't know them. Seriously tortured soul who is fighting between jealousy that I can get my needs met and admiration that I am willing to take that chance.

You're right though. I don't get paid to have sex with my loves. I do not give sex freely, as a slut. I don't think the term applies.