Words

[hypatia42]

Skank. Slutty slutty whore. *thoughtful look* Both of these terms have been used in regards to me, in the past week but also over the past year. By people that love me and generally use them in an endearing tone of voice. Not really sure how to deal with that.

I understand that poly people have been trying to reclaim slut as a positive term. I don't particularly feel one way or the other about it. I just can't feel there is any good connotation of the two above other than the one that is being put into it by the people I know. Not really sure there should be good connotations. Its kinda of a strange place to be. I don't particularly think of myself as either one(*see previous post about other people's perceptions). Also, I don't have issues with it since I *so* don't see myself that way. At what point do I need to step in and say something? I don't even know...

Comments

[nkcmike.livejournal.com]

Don't let others define who/what you are. Reserve that privilege unto yourself.

[hypatia42.livejournal.com]

Not letting others define me. That is my job. How others see me is a reflection of how they see themselves though. If I am behaving in a way that causes them to lash out at me, call me names, etc. what does that say about them?

[nkcmike.livejournal.com]

"What does that say about them?" Well, I think it's pretty obvious what it says about them. And anyway, who gives a flyin' f**k? It's THEIR problem.

You are who you are, and you seem to be pretty comfortable with it.