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seems like most of my posts lately have been about my health. I'm sorta keeping it together. I think I would feel better if I could well and truly fall apart supported by someone who knows how to do that without damaging my sense of self but also has no stakes in this directly. This person is not forthcoming.

So I'm in pain. Not allowed to take NSAIDs because of their blood thinning properties and being cut open on Tuesday. Ibuprofen is my usual standby when I can't get my muscles to release. I will admit that part of the pain is sitting in front of the laptop on the kitchen table. At least I have a computer chair in here now.

Pre-op appointment today. Once again I am able to say I, much like my cat, am remarkably healthy in spite of everything wrong with me. *wry grin* I am also capable of running on will power and stubborn like she is. There is a limit to how long I can do that in a healthy way.

words for how to deal with me that I need to make sure don't go away: "a big factor is how well your partner deals with shifting boundaries based on how you're doing and willingness to lovingly meet you wherever you are. And a lot of raw, animal lust."

I turn into someone I don't like when I'm in constant mind bending pain. I start questioning my ability to interact as an adult with other human beings. I start questioning my worth as someone to does interact with other adults. Questions like, "Why on earth do you want to be near me?" and "Why do you put up with me?" enter my mind. The Honey is about the only one who deals with this. He's a saint, I swear. I've gotten really good at recognizing these lies. Just trying to get thru it the best I can. I just want to feel better. *sigh*

[profile] gwisteria convinced the hospital that they had to give my my uterus back when they were done with it. I want to dig a hole and plant an apple tree over it. I would dearly love for something good and reproductive to be fed by that part of me that gave me nothing but pain. Outside of me it can do more good than in. I have faith that this is the right thing to do and I will feel better. And there will be apples.
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Valkyrie died last night. She had diabetes and had been losing weight for a while. Sudden downturn yesterday and didn't wake this morning. My heart hurts for my wife.

It has really made me take a look at my girl. She is older than Val. She has been dealing with ailing health for over two years now. The days have passed when I *had* to check and see if she was still breathing multiple different times. I do wonder if I ought to let her go, if I am doing a disservice to her by keeping her here. *sigh* I don't know the answer to that question any more than I know why she sticks around. Stubborn I guess. She lives to curl up and nap in her warm spots. Its getting colder now. She doesn't deal well with the cold. I wonder each day how much longer she will be with me. My heart hurts for my wife and I know I will be in the same place soon.

It took me 5.5 years of dealing and coping and processing to get one of my best friends ever back into my life. It took 4 years to get to a solid place with the man I used to call PIC.

Working out more. Trying to get in better shape. Thinking of coloring my hair now so that it will have faded out for TeslaCon. Remembering that this is the time of year when I want to shave my head. Also remembering that I always get over this feeling and I'm always happy I don't have my head bare right before winter starts. I want to get a hair cut but really don't want to lose length before TeslaCon. Damn Victorian hairstyles...

Ministry 2.0 helping people get in touch with their inner beauty. I am going to MOA on Sunday with Shirtless' ...girlfriend? I have no idea how they define their relationship. Don't really care as their definition has little bearing on me. Still, last month she was face planting in my cleavage, like ya do, and bemoaned the fact that hers are not like mine. I told her she needed better bras. And so we are going bra shopping. How did I get hooked into going bra shopping with a metamour? Excellent question but it is a pattern for me to be really good friends with them and sometimes maintain that friendship long past the ending of the other connection. I went to Greece with Wisteria after all.

Wow, sidetracked much? I think the ministry part comes in where I enjoy helping people uncover the beauty they have but cannot see yet. It doesn't always work. There are people who are so down on themselves that all they see is flaws. It does work often enough that I am willing to continue offering it as a service because I can see the increased appreciation of self on their faces and that is a thing of beauty all on its own.

My body continues to be a challenge. I went to ceili last night and got through two dances. Cramps started immediately and didn't stop until 2am. Its interesting intellectually because they feel different than they ever have before. Much more like stabbing in my abdomen. Gotta say, I'm not a fan.

Standing up and being who I want to be for my community is important to me. Defining what my community is is necessary to this. Knowing that setting good boundaries on what, when, and how I will give what I can give without causing harm to myself is an essential tool. Needing to get past the feeling that I should be apologizing for other's splash zones. Center. Balance. Ground. Calm.

I wonder if I can go for a good long bike ride now and still do Yoga X later... think I'm gonna give it a try. *edit, or maybe I will get in my car and drive over to my dr's offices and sign a records release form*
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As per the stereotype of Wednesday as hump day there are good things and bad things and what you choose to focus on is what gets your energy.

bad: I woke for the second day in a row unable to turn my head. Debilitating pain, yes beyond my normal levels and that says something, was stabbing me in the back of the head.
-I have iced it, taken pain meds, rested, slept, honored my boundaries, and gone to see the chiro for the second time this week.
-I feel I have done all I can do for this situation at the moment thus dwelling on it does me no good.

bad: uterus is stabbing me randomly and not so randomly.
-I have done everything I am willing to do for this situation. I am not willing to completely forgo sex until after the issue is finalized(read, months if I am lucky). I have already curtailed most of that activity. Thus this is something I just have to deal with for now.

bad:My house is a wreck and shit needs to get done.
-see above for why dealing with this has not happened yet. Honoring my boundaries means I will go lay down for a nap soon.

Good: MrBee finally got back to me in a real reply kind of fashion. SQUEE. The bee season is slowing down and the kids are going back to school thus more time is available to be devoted to other things.
-people have their own schedules and lives and no matter how much you want to personalize it and beat yourself up, its really not about you.

Good: Shirtless continues to engage in fun ways with me. I enjoy talking with him and his mind is one I like. There are a couple of scratchy bits but in a no-expectation/no-stress paradigm they are not really issues.
-relax and go with the flow. Trust that you know your boundaries, that you will communicate them and they will be respected. You are worth that. *deep breath*

Good: Bad September is a local steampunk band that I got to attend the cd release for last night.
-Did realize that I don't really deal well with being on stage as I am not really a very good exhibitionist.
-made connections with other parts of the local steampunk community. Might have an outlet for that part of me without having to deal with the murder mystery group.

Good: allergy season seems to be calming down for me.

Good: I constantly have amazing people supporting me from across the globe. I know and love and am loved by so many and feel blessed.

Good: people are reaching out to me for love and support in the realms of my ministry and I can do those things in spite of being in pain and low on energy.
-your gifts are those things that can be proffered no matter the situation. You are blessed.

Good things are good. Bad things have been dealt with to the best of my ability. Nap now. Much love.
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I feel like I need a word coined for the opposite sort of empathy feeling that compersion indicates. Everything I have seen says that compersion is all about happy and joy and I need one that is feeling sad when someone you love feels sad. It is also a strange feeling to want to talk to someone and say things like, "How on earth would you think it is a good idea to break up with my lover? Can't you tell he is truly awesome?"

cut for feminine tmi, you have been warned )

I have decided on a moniker for Berkie's manpanion. I can't really call him that myself since he isn't my manpanion. Still she is his Companion and since The Doctor has a Companion I have decided that is his name. It fits rather well and his habit of being a snappy dresser doesn't hurt things. It will be shorted to Doc for ease of typing cause I am lazy.

The body pain can go away now thx. I have been in pretty serious pain since getting home. Its like my body wants to go back to the ocean or something. *eyeroll* What am I going to do with myself? Sunday I got stung by a something at the farmer's market. Immediate pain. I didn't recognize it as venom poison pain until I found the welt 12 hours later, enough time that it had well and truly spread into my system. Still trying to deal with that one working its way out. I might ought to take another benadryl.

I feel so much better when I can get into the ocean. I know I have said this. It doesn't really help. The closest ocean is in the memory of the rocks beneath my feet. The land itself knows what it means to be water. And we circle back to the Tiffany Aching novels. I have been threatening to reread Terry Pratchett's works. Maybe now is a good time to do that. Escapism!

Go swimming more. Get out and go.

I have been riding my bike more since getting home. I think this is a good thing. The part of my brain that wanted to get in the car and drive for hours to clear my head is now accepting that maybe riding my bike would be a decent substitute since I haven't allowed myself to indulge that portion in years. I need better lights and some sort of storage system to make it a decent transport bike. I discovered yesterday that wearing anything on my back while riding causes significant pain in the neck/shoulders area. It could also be that was irritating the sting I got on Sunday...

I am going to TeslaCon. I will have fun. Mr.Bee will be there. So will his family. It remains to be seen if I will be able to get to know him, life being what it is for two adults who each run their own business and have committed lives in different cities. I am still looking forward to seeing him. Maybe I can convince him to go swimming. :)
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I make space. Sometimes the space takes up a lot of me. RoP today was amazing and wonderful and moving. Everything it was meant to be. I am spent. Dangerously close to overspent. Trying to figure out what will be the best things for me to do to make sure that I get some of that energy back instead of dipping into the red.

Need to get back to working out regularly. NEED to do that for myself. Excuses be damned. There will always be a reason to not do it. I can do something and I should do it.

Feels like the inside of my body is filled with steel wool. Muffled and full, strange and scratchy. Need pettins badly. Like break down sobbing from need of pettins. Instead I need to cut the Honey's hair and make sure the girl has foods and wait til the shower is done and ...and...

*nods off*
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My snark filter is on and functioning despite it being 1:34am.

I am awake at 1:34am despite being exhausted at 8:30pm. I think I have decided that I need to use my blue light and reset my circadian rhythms. This has got to stop.

My tolerance level for bullshit is non-existent when I am in pain. I have been in pain for weeks. Ergo, my tolerance level for bullshit is non-existent right now. Its is then fortunate that my snark filter is on and functioning.

I have been watching tv for hours now. The Honey gave up a while ago.

Observational level; I am getting increasingly irritated every time I hear sports on or turn on the television and it is on ESPN. Observing this from the inside of my head in a rational fashion shows that, well, its irrational. The tv is on ESPN because the Honey watches live tv way more than I do and it is mostly sports tv. Trying to decode this and deprogram it before I throw a shoe at the tv or something more important.

Its cold and damp. Damp kitty is not happy kitty. *see pain and bullshit tolerance above*

I think I am not drinking enough water.

It is possible I could sleep now. Its still earlier than when he gets home from the club when he goes.

my body

Apr. 20th, 2012 01:31 pm
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I have an hour and a half before starting my work day. I'm tired and have been in pain since ... I don't actually remember the last time I wasn't. Vacation helped and I am mightily grateful for the time spent. I can tell I am better mentally. Physically I'm not. There is this little petulant kid inside my head yelling and whining about "Just make it stop hurting now!"

I have had massage, chiropractic adjustments, taking Vit D, supplements and hydrocodone, gone tanning, working out as able to increase seratonin, eating spicy foods for endorphins, and resting as much as possible.

Now taking suggestions on further avenues of inquiry in dealing with this.

family

Apr. 20th, 2012 12:44 pm
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Finally got to talk to my sister. She hasn't had more than 90 minutes sleep at a time since she went into the hospital. She's a little crazed.

New boychild(hereafter named Nephew) has been having a rough time of it. He's been sick since getting home, jaundice levels are moderate(enough to worry momma and make Nephew uncomfortable but not enough to treat), and he looks like a grumpy old man. Momma says he is grumpy and telling everyone within ear shot that he was quite happy where he was and to put him back, Now!

I'm praying that his immune system kicks in and he comes through this soon. Plans to travel to KC and surrounds for Mother's Day weekend.

btw, my pain meds can kick in anytime now, kthxbai
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How bad is it? When I take two valerian and a hydrocodone together then 45 minutes later I'm wide awake cause I'm not in pain anymore, its Bad.

Vegas was amazing. Pretty much anyplace that had sun and warm would have sufficed though. We saw Penn & Teller and "O" by Cirque du Soliel. The former was hillarious and magical. The latter was breath taking and magical. Almost all the bars treated my favorite drink like it was a mixed drink when its really more like a martini. There is no need to add soda water to a caiprinha. I also now understand why alcohol snobs say that 007's fav drink it a watered down drink. Shaken just melts the ice faster. I am not fond of watered down. Voodoo was a blast. Dancing was much needed. I saw everything I could see. I won't go back for anything other than a special occasion. I'm not enthralled I guess I should say. In love with the sun though.

Vacation was necessary and good. Need to remember to cut off the claws tomorrow.
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No Honey, I did not go directly to bed. Its ok.

Sitting here reading journals et al and realizing the day I had yesterday compared to the day I had today. 180 degrees difference. Yesterday I was in an airplane or airport for 12 hours. I was in a lot of pain physically and emotionally. I was really really down on myself for the things that I have allowed to happen to me as an adult.

Arrogance will make you think you have control over something you do not. I will remember this. I will also remember to not blame myself for things I do not have control over. I will not take responsibility for things that are not mine.

I have noticed a serious connection between my pain levels and how I view myself. If I am in pain I am far more likely to be emotionally bad for me. Noted.

posting

Oct. 12th, 2011 11:50 am
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I feel like I should be posting. Not sure why I feel that way though. Lots bubbling just off the periphery but nothing to hold onto quite yet.

I'm 34 now. My mom is 60. Party at the end of the month. I don't remember the last time it was this gorgeous here in MN on my birthday. I do remember being in Greece for my birthday and hearing a snowstorm had hit.

I have a buffet in my dining room now. The plants didn't die because I left for the weekend. Next we will test the Honey's ability to maintain their life for a whole week. I need to clean up the place before the end of the month. I'm tired tho. I want snuggles.

Chiro appt this morning hurt. Mebbe I should take a nap. Reset the body some.

Dinner plans need to be figured out. Need to contact my Portland peeps and firm up plans for *next* week. :)

Hmm, was fine til the front came through. Now I feel squashed and exhausted. These are probably related.

I hurt. Today is on pause until further notice.
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I went to KC(which in case anyone was wondering is actually in Missouri) for a long weekend. The worst head and neck pain I have experienced in a long while accompanied me. In spite of this I had a lovely time. Doubt I will stay with the kids again. Call me spoiled but I like having space that doesn't smell like cat pee or mean sleeping on a couch. *snerk* Course that's pretty much what people get if they come here at the moment. Not too much longer though.

Did not get to have Imo's, the bastards were closed unexpectedly, "Sorry for any inconvenience" it said. Did I mention bastards?

Business and office things continue to do what they are supposed to do. The Grand Opening Open House is this Saturday. Hoping plenty of people show up. Need to send out a couple more emails I think.

The Honey is in Denver. He asked me last night how I felt about Sweden in winter given my stated distaste for Norway in Winter. *headdesk* He apparently put in for an assessment team for northern Europe and that would happen in Sweden, short term stuff like Paris was. I told him if I wasn't staying with a chain smoker the experience would likely be much more pleasant for me.

Aixios(eks-wah) is a French place in KC down in Brookside. They had pretty damn decent food. Service wasn't stellar but it wasn't anything to complain about. Upon leaving I found that I was in exactly that place a year ago. The church across the street was where we all met up after Kevin's funeral. I was literally stunned.

I think fondue is not my favorite. It was described as a way where everyone participating could be a part of preparing the meal. I experience that in many other ways and thus it seems to not impact me as much. Possibly also because the enjoyment of eating things is a very personal intimate thing I do with myself. Yes I like eating with others but ... I dunno. Its hard to put into words. Maybe I have trouble really enjoying something I know I can easily do at home in greater quantity for less.

I listened to The Dragon Rider by Cornelia Funke on the way down and back. Lovely little story. I think I prefer her one off works to her series work. Some of her stuff is really hard and gritty in feel. I guess I run hot and cold with her. I have another one of hers that I've been "reading" that I'm only halfway thru and that doesn't bother me. Most of the way thru Inkheart too and I just don't care to finish right now. meh

Swimming was had. I have tan lines for the first time in a while. Much sun exposure felt really good.

I visited the Nelson for the first time since they opened the new wing. Didn't go in. I'm a bit of a anti-fan of modern art. In conversing about this I discovered the reason I prefer photography and sculpture as art forms. I find awe in nature not in the work of mastery for humans. S says he sees the years of work that went into learning a skill and I prefer to have no presence of the artist whatsoever because they did such an amazing job of representing real life. My Dad described to me learning another language and how many compliments you get when you get really good but you know you have made it when you stop getting compliments. Its kinda like that. Step out of the way and let the subject shine. For me anyhow.

Reminds me of how I was taught to write, don't tell them, show them. Don't describe a thing, let them experience it. Harder than it sounds and it doesn't sound easy.
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In researching the April trip to Las Vegas I discovered that the hotel that the festivities will be centered on has a topless bar. One can reserve a lounge chair or table to tan and drink and be seen. The rational part of my brain knows that the likelihood of going to said bar is slim but I have chosen to use this as impetus. Its something to work towards.

It will be an ongoing process. We are looking at traveling to Costa Rica in just over a year. Keeping in that shape as a way of maintaining health long term and not sabotaging it is going to be my challenge. I was doing damn good until I got in the first car wreck. Managed to get mostly back to fighting shape just before the second wreck. Its not a lot of weight really. I know I lost muscle mass though so that means increased fat mass even if the numbers come back down.

I've increased the number of hours I'm working which has helped the muscle mass some, not enough yet. I've been riding my bike places, again not enough though some of that is a fight with my fibro. Today I decided to make a change. I went to the gym and rowed for 21 minutes( hit the button an extra time and just went with it), practiced spinning in front of the mirrors(it helps with movement and planes), then stretched in the hot tub for about 15 minutes.

My back and legs have been bothering me more since the IME. I have put myself on a massage schedule so I get one every other week. I still need to get myself more allergy meds and make up packets of supplements so I take them regularly. Doing many of the things I need to do to take care of myself is really hard when its this inhospitable outside. I need to find the things that I can do to make this easier and more likely that I will follow through.

I *will* do this.
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Its some kind of terrible when a day with the sun behind the clouds can make me feel like the world is not a place I wanna be.

The house needs to be fixed, insulated, and painted. I'm hoping we get two out of three there. Trees need to be removed and I'm holding off planting things cause I don't want them to die when either of those things happen.

Thinking I need to change the accounts that several automatic transactions happen through. If I can just put it in there then I don't need to worry about it. I will maintain the amount necessary in that account and since it is not an account that either of us use we should be fine.

I'm tired. I think its been too many days with not quite enough sleep and working hard in the middle. I can tell it is effecting me. Probably making the lack of sunshine worse.

Dude... I'm in pain. I forgot that I get crabby and depressed when I'm in pain. I will go take pain killers now. I will also go tanning and have a nap before the Honey gets home. This will totally reframe my day such that I can have a lovely evening.
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"The amazing synthesis of refinement and barely harnessed wild." was the sentence I came up with a week or so ago I think. He's always been there for me. He's always been straight with me. Embracing the experience of ecstasy fully and realizing that the pain must be as fully experienced to be able to do so at all.

Being in pain for me is like having fair skin. Its something that I live in and I have to pay attention to and have to take care of. It limits some things that I can do but it does not define who I am. I like being able to say this.

I have a client with two children who have chronic auto-immune disorders. I applaud her for allowing them to honor their limits while still encouraging them to expand as they are able. The things she goes through to make sure that her children will grow up to believe in themselves rather than think they are lazy or not worth living or or or... I have a lot of admiration for her.

I made a promise a while back that I need to get to work on. I've been letting it percolate for a while and I think it is action time. I will be working more with Aphrodite and Dionysus but I will also be talking to Freya cause I said I would figure that out. Family is family and all.

Change is on the wind. No clue how things will turn out but I believe that they will be for the greater good. A realistic optimist with faith, that's me.

I didn't go dancing tonight. I could have but the evening went about as unplanned as possible. I figured sitting and chillin would be a better idea than trying to get out. And I'm tired. I don't have anything to do tomorrow so it will be a chilling and resting kind of day.
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I'm missing my paper journal right now. Posting from my phone is not easy and its been days since I've been in front of my computer.

Enticing.

Verdant is the best descriptor I could come up with for the change in smell when I cross the state line into Missouri. I miss my home town. A lot. Its beautiful. The people are awesome. Not likely to move back for a multitude of reasons but I miss it so much that I cry sometimes. Watching the raptors play in the updrafts off of bluffs and the river is entertaining.

I sprained my ankle on Monday. That has caused a change in plans pretty much all week. No dancing, no heels, careful how I walk, pay attention to everything.

Overheated today at Cedar Cove Feline Santuary & Education Center. Had a lovely time and will probably post pix. Overheated at the beginning of May... why am I afraid of planning outdoor activities in Aug? Cause I overheat in May. Debating with oneself the benefits of shaving your own head is a good sign something needs to change. Some amount of "blue drink" later I want to collapse and sleep. The a/c helps that.

SG cometh. Should be an interesting time. Hopefully not the Chinese sense of the word. St.Ang and I have decided our slogan is "we are the party". Debating adding "RECOGNIZE & REPRESENT" to that. Tshirts may be in the offing.

God my ankle hurts. Turned it again out at Cedar Cove. J's bday party is this evening. 30 years old. I think he wll survive.
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In the past few days I have not taken my maintenance meds to see what my baseline is. My baseline is apparently sitting at needing to sleep most of the time. Pain is exhausting. Two weeks ago I could do three hours of massage in a row and not have negative physical or energy effects. Not so any longer. I need to get documents to my doctor and insurance company. It begins again. So tired.

Sadly, it would probably be better for me to not take the meds and actually honor those boundaries but my schedule and finances won't permit it. Always the balance between taking care of myself and getting the bills paid.
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Wow. I don't even know what to say here right now. General update-ness I suppose.

This past week I started a job that I should be able to keep through school. I'm kinda hoping I'm not going to have to get two. I have proved to the mrg that I can hold my own in verbal sparring contests. I doubt I'd ever win one with a pro but I can hold my own and score points with an average player. Working at a wine and spirits store has some advantages. Serious discounts being among them. The fact that this wine store is in the Mall? Mall discounts too. Sweet.

Learning lots about wine. Thats nice. Learning how many people who work at the Mall are constantly buzzed. Not so nice. We do have some pretty nice stock. I got three bottles of wine that I was supposed to try, evaluate and see if I could remember what kind of grape they were made of all the way to my next shift. That'd be tomorrow. I've tried one of them. An old vine red Zinfandel called Plungerhead. I didn't like it. But I do remember characteristics of it that I could share with other people if they are wanting to know about it or red zins in general. The other two are still uncorked. Have to change that soon. Hehe, I get homework that involves drinking. Whats your job? Oh wait, you probably get paid more than me.

My fingernails are berry blue. I may go out with a bang here. Not going to be able to have even short nails soon. I shortened them pretty significantly not long ago. There are a few people close to me who will simultaneously miss my claws and likely heave a huge sigh of relief. Still, I'm looking forward to starting school.

Filling out paperwork today. I don't remember doing some of this last time around. Like, I don't remember having to chose my lender. Other bits are very familiar. I swear gov't forms rarely change content. People at the school are being very helpful in this tedious process of navigating dried woodpulp.

Elevated pain levels in the past week or so. WTF? I don't know. Lots and lots of things effect pain levels. I've not been managing something properly.

Wandered around the Upton Art Fair with PIC this weekend after a lovely steak and eggs breakfast at the Herkimer. Saw lots of beautiful things. I was moved to tears a couple of times. By what you ask? Pictures of the ocean. Duh. Photography is amazing. I want to go to Greece. I want to see Santorini, the city, the bluffs, the bay, everything. I want to swim in the Mediterranean Sea. I want to visit the islands and the sacred sites. Did I mention I cried at the pictures of the ocean?

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