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there was a hurricane and a shit storm at the end of August. There was heat and there was allergy hell. I think I am glad its over.

Today I started P90X Lean. I've been super stressed about the physical issues going on and I know I have been stress eating. I am going to do my best to change that into stress workouts. I am back to not being able to eat enough food because of the muscle building. I feel a bit like I can't win for losing but I know that getting in better shape now will prevent more issues and allow faster recovery when it comes time for surgery. *aside; I just not looked up the word surgery and it doesn't necessarily involve cutting into flesh*

Three difference procedures are on the horizon for me. Possibly two if the first one isn't favorable. But we aren't focusing on that. I've been trying to figure out how to explain why I am so upset about this. The most benign of the three involve reaching inside me, grabbing a piece, and twisting it off. Its a pretty viscerally not fun experience. For those lacking a uterus I would liken it to someone taking a pair of tongs and twisting your uvula off. For the record I have had this done twice now. My recovery time and pattern has not gone well the other times.

I have maintained some sort of marks since CONvergence. Yes this makes me happy. Not being able to have sex is a bummer but there are so many other things than sex I am doing ok. I should hear back from my Dr on Thursday.

I have made two solid connections here in the Twin Cities. Two different guys that I can spend time with and its understood that it is low stress. One is so low stress I never hear from him. The other has three other women and practices what he calls radical honesty. Having seen radical honesty I don't think that is what he is doing but he is committed to not lying. He and I have a lot of philosophy in common.

MrBee's life has slowed down enough that I am finally getting to know him. Its super fun. I enjoy picking his brain about things and he seems to enjoy sharing so for the moment things are all groovy there. I am learning things from him about TeslaCon and I'm really getting excited about that. There will be sewing.

The kids are all back in school as of today. Wolf pup starts his first day of preschool.

We went apple picking over the weekend. Sweetland Orchard really is an awesome place. I love the people who own it. Last weekend was orchard clean up day. I like being able to contribute to the upkeep of a place that I value in a physical as well as monetary way. I think incorporating something like that might be fun for the wellness center.

Be Wellness is the interim name for the wellness center that will be. I told EE that I would be tempted to put bees all over the walls. She said she is fine with that. :) Any positive thoughts/energy you wanna throw our way is appreciated. We have a cider jar in the office right now holding all that stuff. Toss it in with the rest.
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*snip*Mercedes Ruehl earned a well-deserved Academy Award for her work in The Fisher King.

"You don't get to be nice."

One of her best scenes in that movie was the scene where Jeff Bridges’ character, Jack, tells her he’s leaving. She breaks down, sobbing, and he starts to comfort her. Then she pulls herself away from him.

“No!” she says. “You don’t get to be nice! I’m not gonna play some stupid game with you so you can walk out that door feeling good about yourself. …”

She’s right. He doesn’t get to be “nice,” or to pretend he’s not the bad guy so that he can feel good about himself. What he’s doing shouldn’t allow him to feel good about himself. What he’s doing makes him the bad guy.


I was reading an article and this bit reached out and smacked me in the psyche. I have tried to communicate this in many different ways before but never so blatant as to say, "You don't get to be nice." There is nothing in the rule book about me absolving you of your guilt so you can move on.
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I am getting to be ok with the line, "I didn't know what I had when I had it." I am learning that I am no longer the person that wrote the personal disclaimer I posted some months ago. I still warrant a disclaimer but its a very different one at this point. Growing up I am. :) Perhaps something along the lines of "be careful what you wish for," would suffice. Perhaps with a side order of, "I am damaged and may need a break from time to time that has absolutely nothing to do with you."
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Its been a difficult week. A whole lot of energy output with not a lot of return on investment so to speak. Not all from one quarter so don't be assuming things. I am certainly being knocked off center but things that used to take weeks or months to recover from are now taking hours. I'm managing my own things/needs/space and doing a decent job of balancing the ledger. Tuesday evening I took a bath with a bunch of woody scents in it and shaved my legs for the first time in a long time. Last night I sat at the wine bar and had a flight. Tonight I took ten minutes and wandered through the garden center at Menards. The smell of plants is good for me. Who knows that tomorrow will bring.
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I think I have the insight I need to deal with T. I talked with W about military things and people and mindsets. It helped. I think I have the frame of reference I need to go forward and not fuck things up with my confusion.

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