Acceptance vs. Tolerance

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posted by ingridsumemrs Its talking about how you interact with your children but much like yesterday's it is more broadly applicable than that.

THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove


:: Acceptance vs. Tolerance ::

Acceptance is one of your greatest sources of Power.
Without it, you couldn't receive or own anything,
handle unexpected change, or listen effectively.

In general, acceptance means being at peace with
What Is. When you refuse to accept something, you
sacrifice your peace.

Non-acceptance creates resistance and shifts your
focus away from what you want, toward what you
*don't* want.

Can you see, then, how you disempower and undermine
*yourself* when you deem your child's behavior
"unacceptable"?

But acceptance is not the same as tolerance. It's
entirely possible to accept something while choosing
not to tolerate it. For example, if your child were
trying to hit you, you could accept (make peace with)
that -- even while using protective force to prevent
the hitting.

The difference is how you *feel* in the process:

- Tolerance *without* acceptance leads to resentment.
- Tolerance *with* acceptance leads to appreciation.
- INtolerance *without* acceptance leads to conflict.
- INtolerance *with* acceptance leads to creativity.

In other words, when you accept What Is -- AND you're
clear that you want a change -- it's easy to solve
problems creatively.

http://dailygroove.net/acceptance-vs-tolerance