Communcation

[hypatia42]

The continuing saga of Amy figuring shit out. Other people do not communicate the way I do. Assuming that their communication networks and interactions are like mine is a surefire way to get *bad* things to happen. I have had this blow up in my face to my major confusion more than once.

Feeling like I have failed at communication is really really hard on me. Feeling like I have to give up on communication because it just isn't working is even harder.

If I have gotten to the point of not trusting someone's communication with me... I don't know how to forgive and forget that. I don't know how to move past it.

G: "For someone who works with a love goddess and who has so much capacity for understanding, there is no forgivness in you." Me,"No. No I don't." G,"I don't see how that can be."

I have never said I was an good at forgivness. In fact, I have said over and over that I am not good at it.

Comments

Only my opinion

[krkhst.livejournal.com]

worth nothing on the open market and so therefore easily discardable - however, I think it could be argued that until you understand forgiveness, you can never truly understand love.

[catpaw67.livejournal.com]

I certainly don't want to preach at you. I just feel the need to say that I find forgiveness to be an incredibly loving thing I can do for myself. Regardless of the other person's response (or lack thereof, because I don't always find myself telling the person I forgive them, even if I have) my own spirit is healed and nurtured by the act of forgiving someone else.

It doesn't mean I'll trust them later enough to let them hurt me again. But it does mean that I no longer carry the baggage of the pain with me, and I no longer have extreme reactions to them. Just thinking out loud, here. I get that you and I are very different. *hugs*

[siriciryon.livejournal.com]

Perhaps it would be helpful to work out what forgiveness means - both implications of having forgiven and what you have to do to forgive - and then see what other people mean by it. Some of things people may say to you may be based on an "apples are oranges" understanding of terms...

Forgiveness

[ingridsummers.livejournal.com]

If you'd like to explore this I have an interesting meditation I'd be happy to copy for you. It looks at forgiveness in a manner that sometimes helps break through "stuckness".

Re: Forgiveness

[hypatia42.livejournal.com]

Yes please, that would be lovely. I'm definitely feeling stuck.