Partners and love and grief
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hypatia421. partnership - a cooperative relationship between people or groups who agree to share responsibility for achieving some specific goal; "effective language learning is a partnership between school, teacher and student"; "the action teams worked in partnership with the government"
2. partnership - a contract between two or more persons who agree to pool talent and money and share profits or losses
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Pool talent. Share profits and losses. Says all I can and more. I have multiple partners. Different areas of life. My soul seeks and creates partnerships with people. It is hard. I cannot imagine walking away from a disagreement no matter how draining it is to me because I feel I have a responsibility to the partnership to share the responsibility for achieving the goal of clear communication. Some aspects of partnership are easier with one person or another. It balances out overall though.
Needs are needs. Not to be negotiated. If you tell me that you have a need I will do my best to accommodate that. You need it. Partnerships take into account that everyone has different needs. Respecting that means that sometimes needs will go unmet. Being responsible to that means that sometimes I will put my partner's needs above my own and they will occasionally be required to do the same. The sharing in the profits is what makes it easier to share in the losses. Sharing in the losses makes them all easier to bear.
One healthy partnership I have has lasted long enough that it is reflexive. We just know. I looked at the Honey the other day and said, "If you ever treat me that way in X situation I will leave you." He looked back at me clear eyed and said, "I'd expect you to. I'd deserve it." We have intertwined ourselves in our partnership such that the knowing is doing and no matter the difficulty we face it together as a team. Sometimes that means I know I need to leave him be and do it himself because I'd just be a distraction but if I need to help he'll let me.
So many people I know are in grief processes right now. Fathers and mothers and lovers and sons and daughters, sisters and brothers and people who you are too close to to let go. But there are babies too. And overwhelming happinesses that bring one to tears because it is too much to bear inside and it has to come out. Profits and losses. One magnified by the sharing, one eased by the sharing.
So many people out there I would like to reach out and hold and touch and share with. Not everyone is like me. I live my life as a cooperative effort.
"And if I shed a tear I won't cage it, I won't fear love"
2. partnership - a contract between two or more persons who agree to pool talent and money and share profits or losses
wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn
Pool talent. Share profits and losses. Says all I can and more. I have multiple partners. Different areas of life. My soul seeks and creates partnerships with people. It is hard. I cannot imagine walking away from a disagreement no matter how draining it is to me because I feel I have a responsibility to the partnership to share the responsibility for achieving the goal of clear communication. Some aspects of partnership are easier with one person or another. It balances out overall though.
Needs are needs. Not to be negotiated. If you tell me that you have a need I will do my best to accommodate that. You need it. Partnerships take into account that everyone has different needs. Respecting that means that sometimes needs will go unmet. Being responsible to that means that sometimes I will put my partner's needs above my own and they will occasionally be required to do the same. The sharing in the profits is what makes it easier to share in the losses. Sharing in the losses makes them all easier to bear.
One healthy partnership I have has lasted long enough that it is reflexive. We just know. I looked at the Honey the other day and said, "If you ever treat me that way in X situation I will leave you." He looked back at me clear eyed and said, "I'd expect you to. I'd deserve it." We have intertwined ourselves in our partnership such that the knowing is doing and no matter the difficulty we face it together as a team. Sometimes that means I know I need to leave him be and do it himself because I'd just be a distraction but if I need to help he'll let me.
So many people I know are in grief processes right now. Fathers and mothers and lovers and sons and daughters, sisters and brothers and people who you are too close to to let go. But there are babies too. And overwhelming happinesses that bring one to tears because it is too much to bear inside and it has to come out. Profits and losses. One magnified by the sharing, one eased by the sharing.
So many people out there I would like to reach out and hold and touch and share with. Not everyone is like me. I live my life as a cooperative effort.
"And if I shed a tear I won't cage it, I won't fear love"