*warning* run on sentence

In response to hypanebliss's hypothetical LJ post about the Lovely coconuts;

Thank you my love for spending all those years with me, talking with me honestly, taking me for who I am and not expecting more than I can give, helping me deal with my insecurities, helping me learn how to take care of myself rather than taking care of me, growing with me rather than away from me, remaining true to who you are through the whole growth process, opening my eyes to who I really am, letting me be me and not being threatened by that, allowing me to find my own way, teaching me that I have more to give than I realize, supporting my independent streak, and all around being the most awesome guy on the face of the planet.

You rock.

personal beliefs

One should never under any circumstances, no matter the provocation, threaten your loved ones with ANY of the following;

"I'll leave you. I will call a lawyer and get a divorce." No one threatening that means it. If they meant it they would just go ahead and do it or simply say, "I want a divorce." Threatening it is the worst form of emotional blackmail.

"Do you want me to kill myself? Cause I will." Pretty much the same reasoning as the above. Saying you feel like killing yourself or that you have thought about suicide is a completely different issue.

"I'll kill you." Stupid. Just plain stupid. If you don't mean it then you aren't gonna do it and it is not something you wanna go around letting people know you think that kind of behavior is okay. If you do mean it then you need more help than just a verbal smack down.

Pretty much anything you aren't willing to or physically capable of carrying out. For example, saying something like, "I'm going to rip your arm off," and "I'll ground you for the rest of your life." It's just silly and you aren't going to do it and you lose credibility with whomever you are upset with when you say things you won't actually do. This one is especially bad with children cause if you lose credibility you lose respect and you immediately lose the only REAL hold you had on them in the first place.


I have felt these things for a long time and have attempted to adhere to them in my daily life and feel that I'm a better friend/lover/authority figure because of it. I know the last one helped me immensely in teaching and daycare.