thoughts from the weekend; Part 2
Dec. 27th, 2004 11:21 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
hypatia42So I've been thinking more about becoming "complete" and what that means...
I knew I would have to come to terms with why some people are so uncomfortable around me. Coming to terms with something for me means understanding it to a point. Why are people uncomfortable around me? I think it has many levels but one I'm working with right now is my ability to love a person even when they cannot love themselves. To be able to accept the person as they are, to accept all the flaws when they themselves cannot is not something many people want to see in another's eyes. To love unconditionally who and what they are is a very scary thing. Its confusing and frustrating to think that someone else may see something in you that you aren't seeing. That anyone could be comfortable with the parts of you you don't see/allow/admit often exist.
What do you do with a person that can reach in and hold your pain, sadness, sorrow, anger, and regret? That can know/feel those things intimately and still love you?
I knew I would have to come to terms with why some people are so uncomfortable around me. Coming to terms with something for me means understanding it to a point. Why are people uncomfortable around me? I think it has many levels but one I'm working with right now is my ability to love a person even when they cannot love themselves. To be able to accept the person as they are, to accept all the flaws when they themselves cannot is not something many people want to see in another's eyes. To love unconditionally who and what they are is a very scary thing. Its confusing and frustrating to think that someone else may see something in you that you aren't seeing. That anyone could be comfortable with the parts of you you don't see/allow/admit often exist.
What do you do with a person that can reach in and hold your pain, sadness, sorrow, anger, and regret? That can know/feel those things intimately and still love you?
