today's wisdom from others
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hypatia42When anger arises remember to pause
When you feel like a keg of dynamite just about to go off, patience
means just slowing down at that point – just pausing – instead of
immediately acting on your usual, habitual response. You refrain from
acting, stop talking to yourself, and connect with the soft spot. But
at the same time you are completely and totally honest with yourself
about what you are feeling. You’re not suppressing anything; patience
has nothing to do with suppression. In fact, it has everything to do
with a gentle, honest relationship with yourself.
If you wait and don’t fuel the rage with your thoughts, you can be
very honest about the fact that you long for revenge; nevertheless you
keep interrupting the torturous story line and stay with the
underlying vulnerability. That frustration, that uneasiness and
vulnerability is nothing solid. And yet it is painful to experience.
Still, just wait and be patient with your anguish and with the
discomfort of it. This means relaxing with that restless, hot energy –
knowing that it’s the only way to find peace for ourselves or the world.
-Pema Chodron by way ofpagandelight
Authenticity is a daily practice.
Choosing authenticity means: cultivating the courage to emotionally
honest, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable;
exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made
of strength and struggle and connected to each other through a loving
and resilient human spirit; nurturing the connection and sense of
belonging that can only happen when we let go of what we are supposed to
be and embrace who we are.
Authenticity demands WholeHearted living and loving - even when it's
hard, even when we're wrestling with the shame and fear of not being
good enough, and especially when the joy is so intense that we're afraid
to let ourselves feel it.
Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching
struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our
lives.
Choosing authenticity is an act of resistance.
Choosing to live and love with our WholeHearts is an act of
defiance.
(reposted with permission fromcastalusoria, from http://www.brenebrown.com/badge/)
When you feel like a keg of dynamite just about to go off, patience
means just slowing down at that point – just pausing – instead of
immediately acting on your usual, habitual response. You refrain from
acting, stop talking to yourself, and connect with the soft spot. But
at the same time you are completely and totally honest with yourself
about what you are feeling. You’re not suppressing anything; patience
has nothing to do with suppression. In fact, it has everything to do
with a gentle, honest relationship with yourself.
If you wait and don’t fuel the rage with your thoughts, you can be
very honest about the fact that you long for revenge; nevertheless you
keep interrupting the torturous story line and stay with the
underlying vulnerability. That frustration, that uneasiness and
vulnerability is nothing solid. And yet it is painful to experience.
Still, just wait and be patient with your anguish and with the
discomfort of it. This means relaxing with that restless, hot energy –
knowing that it’s the only way to find peace for ourselves or the world.
-Pema Chodron by way of
pagandelightAuthenticity is a daily practice.
Choosing authenticity means: cultivating the courage to emotionally
honest, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable;
exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made
of strength and struggle and connected to each other through a loving
and resilient human spirit; nurturing the connection and sense of
belonging that can only happen when we let go of what we are supposed to
be and embrace who we are.
Authenticity demands WholeHearted living and loving - even when it's
hard, even when we're wrestling with the shame and fear of not being
good enough, and especially when the joy is so intense that we're afraid
to let ourselves feel it.
Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching
struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our
lives.
Choosing authenticity is an act of resistance.
Choosing to live and love with our WholeHearts is an act of
defiance.
(reposted with permission from
castalusoria, from http://www.brenebrown.com/badge/)