There's a few tonalities and scenarios to differentiate here. Based on my own experiences and gathered information, check through the following two lists, and note how the one informs the other. 1) It's desired, by men, for any woman he has sex with to be open to an MFF threesome - and preferable if she desires an MFF threesome through some latent or known bisexuality. 2) It's expected for a woman to want to be in an MMF threesome if she's a slut. 3) It's expected for a man to want to be in a MFF threesome. 4) It's understood for a man to want to be part of a group (2+) of men who are using a single woman for sexual gratification (without regards to her appreciation of the interaction) 5) It's odd for a man to want to be in an MMF threesome. 6) It's odd for a woman to want to be in a threesome. ---- 1) It is OK for a man to be straight and monogamous or promiscuous. 2) It is OK for a woman to be monogamously straight or bisexual but always including a single male partner with any number of female partners. (i.e., men are allowed to be promiscuous directly or indirectly through their female partner(s)) 3) It is marginally OK for a woman to be bisexual in the absence of or in supplement to a male partner. 4) It is marginally OK to unacceptable for a woman to be a lesbian [since she's not having sex with any men] 5) It is unacceptable for a man to be gay, not because he isn't having sex with women, but because he threatens the [false—ed.] identification of masculine with dominant and can potentially strip "dominant" from "masculine" for any male he chooses to be sexually interested in.
Take all of the above as being observed societal norms, as distinctly opposed to my own beliefs and opinions. Note the degree to which the second is rooted in the male comfort zone being centered around being in charge of all sexual interactions, and likewise involved in all sexual interactions.
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Date: 2008-03-03 03:22 am (UTC)1) It's desired, by men, for any woman he has sex with to be open to an MFF threesome - and preferable if she desires an MFF threesome through some latent or known bisexuality.
2) It's expected for a woman to want to be in an MMF threesome if she's a slut.
3) It's expected for a man to want to be in a MFF threesome.
4) It's understood for a man to want to be part of a group (2+) of men who are using a single woman for sexual gratification (without regards to her appreciation of the interaction)
5) It's odd for a man to want to be in an MMF threesome.
6) It's odd for a woman to want to be in a threesome.
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1) It is OK for a man to be straight and monogamous or promiscuous.
2) It is OK for a woman to be monogamously straight or bisexual but always including a single male partner with any number of female partners. (i.e., men are allowed to be promiscuous directly or indirectly through their female partner(s))
3) It is marginally OK for a woman to be bisexual in the absence of or in supplement to a male partner.
4) It is marginally OK to unacceptable for a woman to be a lesbian [since she's not having sex with any men]
5) It is unacceptable for a man to be gay, not because he isn't having sex with women, but because he threatens the [false—ed.] identification of masculine with dominant and can potentially strip "dominant" from "masculine" for any male he chooses to be sexually interested in.
Take all of the above as being observed societal norms, as distinctly opposed to my own beliefs and opinions. Note the degree to which the second is rooted in the male comfort zone being centered around being in charge of all sexual interactions, and likewise involved in all sexual interactions.