little more than six days
May. 29th, 2007 01:36 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
hypatia42The following is an emotional reaction to medical newsletters (crap) I have to wade through every day. I have learned a lot from reading the newsletters, however the people that comment on the articles online… many of them are just *sigh*
HPV prevention- Moral pure blah blah blah. I get so effin irritated at the abstinence people. Not because I think abstaining from sex is bad. On the contrary I think that sex too early or for the wrong reasons can be severely damaging. No, I get irritated at them because they are always talking about keeping their children pure as though that will solve all their problems. Not telling children about sex and all the things that can happen does not prevent the children from finding out about sex. Waiting until you think your children are mature enough to handle knowing about sex does not prevent them from finding out about it before you think they are mature enough. The 7th grade sex ed class is far too late to get clear information to children. Don’t let your fear get in the way of your child’s development.
Knowing that parents don’t like talking about something with them, or that their parents would not want them to know something? Better than candy. Especially in a censored society like ours. Honest information and frank open discussion about all things is prevention. Don’t make things you don’t want kids involved in intriguing by making them taboo or secret. Educate them. Tell them why you don’t want them involved in this. Give them all the information before they get partial and potentially twisted information from some other source. Set high expectations and give them the opportunity to make the right choices on their own.
Contraction of STD’s is largely a function of lack of education. Sheltering anyone, for any reason really, is not doing them a favor.
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Eight months after I start my job I am finally figuring out how to do parts of it well. Trial and error due to lack of training has hampered this process. 6 ½ days left and I just figured out something today that would fix billing problems. *sigh* I hope for sanity sake that the person they have coming in after me gets better training than I got.
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MY GODS. He’s home this week and I won’t see him. He’s in meetings tonight, I have the remembering scheduled for tomorrow. He has plans for Thurs or Fri. Sat I have the Intro to school all morning and early afternoon and he’s got practice scheduled for that afternoon/eve. Games on Sunday. He’ll be gone next week. Packing and getting ready for FSG will have to happen in there. I wish I felt like the week of FSG would be down time I could spend with him but there is a piece of me that feels like he’s going to want down time where he can just relax and be and that usually involves him disappearing. We are already traveling separately.
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I was right about the last two weeks of this job being a crucible. This isn’t hormones or sleep deprivation. It is simply discontent. I have needs. It is okay for me to have needs. It is good to communicate these needs. If the person that I have communicated these needs to cannot meet the needs it is up to them to communicate that with me. At what point do I have the right to get upset about my needs not being met? After I’ve done what I can to get them met? I understand about situations that prevent me from getting my needs met. No really I get it. There will be things come up that get in the way of things as I’d like them to be. Do I get to be upset about someone not fulfilling and expectation that they have set up? What good does it really do for me to be upset anyway? Me being upset does not change the situation that has passed. I generally see getting upset as a waste of vital energy. Better to use that energy to affect change on the things that I am able. Maybe I am short changing myself in this way.
Historically I would view a situation that I might need to get upset about as a general failure of mine to clearly communicate what I needed. I tend to assume that people will not let me down without letting me know if they truly know what it is that I need. Generally this works. I can be understanding of situations where my needs are not met that way and I can work around it, getting my needs met in other ways. Occasionally situations arise where it cannot be avoided that my needs are disregarded or forgotten through no fault in my communication. I don’t like placing blame. I think it is a useless thing. Blame deals with the past and that cannot be changed, only learned from. Thing is, when that sort of thing happens, trust comes into play. If I can’t trust you to uphold your end of the bargain with this… I dunno where I am on this.
HPV prevention- Moral pure blah blah blah. I get so effin irritated at the abstinence people. Not because I think abstaining from sex is bad. On the contrary I think that sex too early or for the wrong reasons can be severely damaging. No, I get irritated at them because they are always talking about keeping their children pure as though that will solve all their problems. Not telling children about sex and all the things that can happen does not prevent the children from finding out about sex. Waiting until you think your children are mature enough to handle knowing about sex does not prevent them from finding out about it before you think they are mature enough. The 7th grade sex ed class is far too late to get clear information to children. Don’t let your fear get in the way of your child’s development.
Knowing that parents don’t like talking about something with them, or that their parents would not want them to know something? Better than candy. Especially in a censored society like ours. Honest information and frank open discussion about all things is prevention. Don’t make things you don’t want kids involved in intriguing by making them taboo or secret. Educate them. Tell them why you don’t want them involved in this. Give them all the information before they get partial and potentially twisted information from some other source. Set high expectations and give them the opportunity to make the right choices on their own.
Contraction of STD’s is largely a function of lack of education. Sheltering anyone, for any reason really, is not doing them a favor.
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Eight months after I start my job I am finally figuring out how to do parts of it well. Trial and error due to lack of training has hampered this process. 6 ½ days left and I just figured out something today that would fix billing problems. *sigh* I hope for sanity sake that the person they have coming in after me gets better training than I got.
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MY GODS. He’s home this week and I won’t see him. He’s in meetings tonight, I have the remembering scheduled for tomorrow. He has plans for Thurs or Fri. Sat I have the Intro to school all morning and early afternoon and he’s got practice scheduled for that afternoon/eve. Games on Sunday. He’ll be gone next week. Packing and getting ready for FSG will have to happen in there. I wish I felt like the week of FSG would be down time I could spend with him but there is a piece of me that feels like he’s going to want down time where he can just relax and be and that usually involves him disappearing. We are already traveling separately.
-
I was right about the last two weeks of this job being a crucible. This isn’t hormones or sleep deprivation. It is simply discontent. I have needs. It is okay for me to have needs. It is good to communicate these needs. If the person that I have communicated these needs to cannot meet the needs it is up to them to communicate that with me. At what point do I have the right to get upset about my needs not being met? After I’ve done what I can to get them met? I understand about situations that prevent me from getting my needs met. No really I get it. There will be things come up that get in the way of things as I’d like them to be. Do I get to be upset about someone not fulfilling and expectation that they have set up? What good does it really do for me to be upset anyway? Me being upset does not change the situation that has passed. I generally see getting upset as a waste of vital energy. Better to use that energy to affect change on the things that I am able. Maybe I am short changing myself in this way.
Historically I would view a situation that I might need to get upset about as a general failure of mine to clearly communicate what I needed. I tend to assume that people will not let me down without letting me know if they truly know what it is that I need. Generally this works. I can be understanding of situations where my needs are not met that way and I can work around it, getting my needs met in other ways. Occasionally situations arise where it cannot be avoided that my needs are disregarded or forgotten through no fault in my communication. I don’t like placing blame. I think it is a useless thing. Blame deals with the past and that cannot be changed, only learned from. Thing is, when that sort of thing happens, trust comes into play. If I can’t trust you to uphold your end of the bargain with this… I dunno where I am on this.