More death/new normal?

I got the information on the 3rd that my cousin in Dallas had passed. According to my mom they were going to be planning the funeral sometime in the next week. We drove to KC on the 4th. The 5th was supposed to be going to Oceans of Fun but the Honey had been having sinus trouble so rather than go there we agreed to sleep in and go to a pool complex in Independence instead since it cost all of $9 to get in and still had the lazy river he was looking forward to. Sleeping in happened. My back sized up after breakfast so I laid down with an ice pack to rest.

I woke to a text from my mom about the funeral being on the 7th and it was too soon and too far and it didn't make sense to try to go. I called her to find out how she really felt and bullied her into admitting that she really did want to go but wasn't confident that she would be able to make it on her own. It ended up being the Honey, Sis, my mom, and me all in a rental car driving from KC to Dallas. 939 miles one way from Minneapolis to Dallas. 5 days total. I met family I haven't seen since I was very small. Overall it was a good visit.

2 days after I got home I got a message that a dear friend, willowoak, had collapsed on the way out of work and they were unable to revive her. She had no will and no documents detailing what do with her and her things. The Honey and I will be working on that soon. You just never know what is gonna happen. One day you could think you are fine and the next you could have a previously unknown cancerous ovarian cyst burst and the trauma of it just might stop your heart.

Ever since then we have been dealing with her effects and preparing for the memorial. It is set for this coming Saturday. Its weird cause I probably spent more time with her over the past 10 years than anyone else in our trad and now I feel a bit adrift. We will all manage but it has definitely rocked the community here. #fuckcancer