On the list of phrases

...I could never hear again. Found another one:

"I didn't know what I had when I had it."

If I never hear this again it'll still be too soon. Whether it be directed at me or someone else. It hurts to hear. Yes it means that some reflection has happened and possibly growth. I'd prefer that it not need to be said I guess. What would happen if everyone were present and participating in what they are doing such that this sort of statement became obsolete? I think everyone would feel more valued.