I certainly don't want to preach at you. I just feel the need to say that I find forgiveness to be an incredibly loving thing I can do for myself. Regardless of the other person's response (or lack thereof, because I don't always find myself telling the person I forgive them, even if I have) my own spirit is healed and nurtured by the act of forgiving someone else.

It doesn't mean I'll trust them later enough to let them hurt me again. But it does mean that I no longer carry the baggage of the pain with me, and I no longer have extreme reactions to them. Just thinking out loud, here. I get that you and I are very different. *hugs*